Whether you set resolutions or not in the new year, you probably have something in mind you want to improve about your health and well-being. Maybe you want to lose weight, or get fit, or have more energy, or better manage a health concern. It is our natural inclination to be well—we can’t help it. This innate striving to be well has kept us thriving as a species.

Yet, there may also be this little (or very loud) voice inside saying “Oh yeah, but what about all the other times you said you would and you didn’t?” Or maybe it says “You thought you really had it last time but you let it slip away. What makes you think this time will be different?” Those voices are there to keep us well too. They help keep us from making mistakes. So what do we do when we want to be well but don’t want to fail?

We go searching for the answers “out there.” We look to a new program, plan, or person that sounds so motivating, it just might kick us into gear and make us stick with it this time. But if your past has told you that you can’t be trusted with your goals, what will be different this year?

This year will be different because you will put the energy into strengthening your ability to motivate yourself,  your Inner Trainer™. Let’s be clear, this is not just a pep talk or a new fad approach to meeting goals. I am not selling you my story of what worked for me, because that would be another outside motivator.  What I do have  to share is the science of how our body and brain work.  And the research tells us that outside motivators don’t last and inside motivators do!

This time you will base what you do on what really works. You will stop giving away your power to motivate yourself. You will take back your trust in yourself to be true to what is most important to you. Best of all, you will be able to relax when you reach that goal because you will know it is no longer a goal or a struggle. There will be nothing hanging over your head, no voices telling you you probably won’t stick with it. You will just know you have what you need to enjoy the energy, health, and well-being you have wanted for so long.

*Fitness: the ability to do activities of daily life with ease with energy left over for emergencies and things you enjoy. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention definition of physical fitness.