How to drop the ‘should’ in exercise

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If we know we should exercise, why do we struggle with it? The answer is complex, but as I said in my last blog series there is one word in that statement that changes everything. ‘Should’ makes exercise an externally-imposed activity with future results. Why does that matter so much? Your brain’s job is to pay attention to what is most important to you right now, what will keep you well right now.

Yet those of us in the healthy-person business keep telling you all the great reasons why you should get more exercise.

Exercise regularly to reduce your risk of

  • colon cancer by over 60%
  • recurrent breast cancer by approximately 50%
  • Alzheimer’s disease by approximately 40%
  • heart disease by approximately 40%
  • type II diabetes by 50%
  • death from any cause (overall mortality) by 40% 1

No matter how powerful these statements are, they are not enough to keep you motivated now. When you are feeling tired at the end of a long day or overwhelmed by too many things on your to do list or comfortable in your bed when the alarm goes off, what you ‘should’ do does not hold much power. What is ‘good for you’ at some point in the future just does not get top billing compared to these more immediate challenges to your well-being.

In the last blog, I simplified all the science-based factors for self-motivation into the Exercise Motivation Equation.

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What is important right now and doable right now will be most motivating right now. The trick is keeping exercise important and doable in the present moment.

Step one: Importance. When businesses are clear about the company’s core values, know their ‘why’, and communicate it well, they are more successful at motivating you to buy what they are selling.2  This not only works for successful companies, it works for successful individuals. This is why a personal coaching call is the first step in my Exercising WELL program. When we use a coaching conversation to clarify your well-being Vision and uncover your most value-driven Why for exercise, you’ll find your self-motivation for exercise ramps up.  In the coaching conversation, we transform exercise from a ‘should’ to a ‘want to’.

Once you know your Why for exercise, you are ready to discover what is most doable for your body and life now.

Step two: Doable. When your brain knows exercise will leave you feeling better now, it will want to do it. But knowing how to exercise in the way that is right for your body right now, rather than for the body you want in the future is not so easy. Many of the marketable future-based results like melting fat, having long lean muscles, and enjoying toned arms are not even doable because they ignore the natural laws of the body. Other results like six pack abs, reaching a goal weight, or completing a fitness challenge only distract from your Why.

Once you know how to move in the way your body was designed and are focused on what you can do now, exercise will immediately make you feel better right now.

In my next blog series, I’ll talk about the Real-time Results of exercise. When you know what is happening in your body with exercise now, you have the best chance of knowing how to get the results that are most important for you now, and leave you feeling better now.

Rethink this Week: Take a moment to explore your Why for exercise. Ask yourself ‘why is exercise important to me?’ Now, ask yourself ‘why is that important to me right now’ four more times. This seems a bit silly—repeating the question—but it is based on the well-established process of Motivational Interviewing3. Asking the question repeatedly, and answering it thoughtfully, will get you closer to the most value-driven reason for exercising. This is your Why. It is the deepest source of energy for your motivation in the present moment. With this motivation energy, you will be ready to use the Real-time Results of exercise that are most important to you to stay out of the ‘shoulds’ and in the ‘want tos’ for exercise. This process is more effective in a coaching conversation but doing this for yourself is a great way to get started with getting to your Why.

Enjoy Exercising WELL,



  1. Exercise is Medicine 
  2. Simon Sinek TED talk
  3. Instant Influence, by Michael Pantelon, PhD 

Ready for exercise success?

Click here to listen to this audio series for FREE

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Does this sound familiar?  You know exercise is good for you, but you struggle to be successful at it. You see that some people are successful at it, though, so why is it so easy for them? In this series I am going to share with you four science-based solutions to your struggles with exercise.

But first, let’s talk about why the common approaches to exercise make it harder to be successful.

Does success with exercise mean you

  • reached your goal weight?
  • see results (e.g., muscle definition)?
  • completed a 5K?

Any one of these would certainly would be considered success in our culture.

But here is the twist: brain and body science tells us this way of thinking actually makes it harder to be successful over time.

Exercise scientists, through thousands of studies, have discovered the ways to exercise to improve fitness and health in a lasting way. Neuroscientists have discovered how the brain changes when something becomes a habit. Yet these have nothing to do with how long you can plank or how many calories you burn or if you can run a 5K.

In fact, what scientists know about lasting exercise success is missing in the most popular exercise programs. To make it worse, common ways to motivate for exercise, such as fitness challenges, or goal setting, can actually sabotage the creation of habits in the brain.

Clearly, our ways of thinking about exercise have steered us away from what scientists have discovered works for exercise success. For real exercise success, we must blend what we know works for the body with what we know works for the brain with what is most important to you.

In the next sessions, we will do just that. You will learn what science tells us works, how to spot the ways we stray from this, and rethink your way to your own version of exercise success.

Until then, take a moment to ask yourself, what does exercise success mean to me?



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Turning exercise information into motivation, part 1

Turning exercise information into motivation, part 3-9.pngCheck out this new TED Talk by Wendy Suzuki, PhD. Dr. Suzuki is a neuroscientist who, after an transformational personal experience with exercise, changed the focus of her brain research lab at NYU to study the effects of exercise on the brain.  She is one of my research heroes!

Her research adds to the already convincing evidence that movement makes our body and brain function at its best. When I watch this video or read research like it, my initial response is  “Yay! This is SO great!” But my second thought is always, “Oh no! 80% of the people hearing this are feeling even more guilt because they don’t get enough exercise!”

Why? Well, there is a clue in the last three minutes of Dr. Suzuki’s talk. She says everyone really only wants to know one thing: “Just tell me the minimum amount of exercise I need to get all these changes?” Why do we ask that? Well, yes, we are busy. Finding the time to exercise is the biggest reason people do not exercise. Yet, we find time for other things with a much smaller return on our investment—watching a movie, going out to dinner, surfing social media, playing video games.  Why are we resisting the time investment for exercise?

Dr. Suzuki states the goal of her research right now. “I want to understand the optimal exercise prescription for YOU, at your age, at your fitness level, for your genetic background, to maximize the effects of exercise for your brain today … and the rest of your life.” Thank you, Dr. Suzuki! It will be very helpful for us to get specifics about just how much we should be doing.

But even this specific information will not lead to motivation. That is because it cannot replace one of the critical skills for lasting motivation: the ability to listen to and trust your own unique, ever-changing body as your source for the most reliable and up-to-date information about exercise. No expert or technology can ever give you that information.

This approach does not come easily in a culture that loves the numbers—steps, miles, calories—so give it time. This week, simply notice what you listen to more—your body or the numbers. See what happens when you put all your trust in the most advanced source of information—your body in the present moment.

Next week, we will look at another key skill for turning exercise information into lasting motivation. Stay tuned!

Why be Fueled by Facts?

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Why invest even five minutes a day to get the facts? Isn’t fitness petty straightforward? You know what to do, you just need to find the time or the motivation to do it. Well, what I have learned over the past thirty years of talking to people about exercise is, it’s often not a lack of time or motivation that gets in the way. What gets in the way are the myths that have become infused into our ideas about how to exercise and what it means to be fit. Once those myths are cleared away, uncovering how doable and life enhancing fitness can truly be, exercise becomes a resource for enjoying more of life every day.

If you enjoy reading blogs or listening to podcasts, you will love the format of this online course. The information is condensed, because I am pretty sure you don’t want to waste a lot of time listening to “filler” information. Each video session of the 30-day course takes less than five minutes and can be viewed on any device.

Because I know how easy it is to lose track of courses and programs you sign up for, we have made this easy to complete. Each day for the month of February, you will receive an email with the link for the topic of the day. Simply click the link wherever you read email and you are taken right to the video.

A new session of Fueled by Facts, my FREE online course starts February 1, 2018.

Click here to enroll—the rest is easy! Enrollment closes at midnight on January 28.

Why definitions matter

Day #2 of Fueled by Facts, your 30-day fitness myths cleanse poses this simple question:  How do you define fitness?

Is your fitness level defined by your ability to:

  • take 10,000 steps a day?
  • run a mile in 5 minutes?
  • touch your toes?
  • look a certain way?
  • bench press a certain weight?

That depends on your goal. If you want to win a body-building or a steps competition, or place first in a 5K or a weight-lifting competition, then yes, your fitness would be defined by the competition.

If you want to be healthy and well, here is your Whole-person definition of fitness:


Click here to sign up for FREE today to discover more about your definition of fitness. You will receive an email each day with a link to a short (less than five minutes) video. Clear away the myths and misconceptions and enjoy the energy and motivation that comes from fact-based fitness.

Enrollment closes on Sunday January 28, 2018. The new session starts February 1.