This post is dedicated to a dear friend who lost his battle with trying to find his wholeness and to all those who tried to help him find his way. May you rest in peace.
In our goals for being healthy, there is a myth that needs to be resolved before we can truly be well. It is the myth that we will finally be okay when we achieve a certain weight, size, way of eating, or living. It is the myth that those who have achieved these are more virtuous than those who have not. The truth is, our striving to be well is an expression of, not a requirement for, our own wholeness.
There are three beliefs that keep us stuck in this myth:
- The Missing Piece: Take your hands and make them into circle, looking through them like a telescope. What do you see? Now take your hands away from your eyes. What do you see? The narrow view is what happens when we believe we need to achieve a certain state in order to be whole. What are you trying to accomplish right now? Are you missing peace because you think of it as a missing piece of you? Take the big picture view. Put your goal in perspective by seeing it as an expression of your wholeness.
- Life is Good or Bad: Stand or sit in a comfortable but open upright position. Feel your body like a mountain. Wind, rain, snow, and sun can all happen around you but you are still a strong, sturdy, beautiful mountain. When we judge life events as “good or bad,” we are believing we are the weather and forget we are the mountain. When we remember we are the mountain, we don’t need to hide from the sorrows and chase the joys. When we are the mountain, “life” is less likely to get in the way of our health goals. We can be with the imperfections inside and around us, being sturdy and beautiful amid it all.
- Being Good or Bad: Consider for a moment all of nature. How does a bulb know how to become a flower? Why do birds spend days building a nest? What makes an animal search for food? Every living thing strives to be safe, contented, and connected, in other words, to be well. We too, as humans, are constantly striving to be well. Whether we “veg out” on the couch or go for a walk, all of our choices are an effort to be well. We are not “bad” if we make one choice and “good” if we make another. Whether our choices lead to well-being or not does not change the fact that they originated from our natural instinct to be well. Self-criticism is a moot point when we see our choices from this perspective.
These judgements and tendencies are a normal part of being human. Noticing when the view of our true selves is blurred by them, then shifting our awareness to our wholeness, is essential to be well now.
Be Well Now,